I’ve taken a bit of a break this month, as you may have noticed, taking some time to catch up with friends over the holiday season because for me, that’s what this time of year is all about.
This season is about reconnecting with those I love, so when I read that the Oxford English Dictionary’s word of the year for 2009 was ‘unfriend,’ I was, well, disappointed. Not by the fact that we have verbed a noun, that’s nothing new (‘google,’ anyone?), and doesn’t offend, but by the fact that 2009’s defining word is one that means cutting ties with friends (albeit online, on facebook, and perhaps only temporarily… but still).
So, I got to thinking about my friends, and what they are to me. Friendships cannot be measured, and each relationship I have is different, but they are themes that apply to all of my friends. I had started with a list (yes that’s right, I am a ‘list’ person. I have come to terms with this and you may see more lists here, in future) of what my friendships are not, e.g. My friends are not hateful, selfish, or likely to swim in my tears… Then I thought, ‘Hold on, I’ve got this all wrong.’ So, here’s a list of what/who my friends are, which is much more rewarding to write:
Celebrate my successes
Commiserate my failures and continue to love me
Are interesting and interested in me
Have wide shoulders and endless tissues
Strong enough to hold me up when I stumble
Intuitive enough to have their arms out to catch me before I realise I’m about to fall
Know when I need them… And when I need to be alone
Reflect my light and brighten my dark
And so much more…
What’s your response to 2009’s word of the year?